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Attract Money with This Fun and Easy Exercise

2010-04-29T02:27:00.000-07:00

Attract Money with This Fun and Easy Exercise
By: Wendy S Betterini

Attracting money with the Law of Attraction is easier than most people believe. In fact, it's so easy that many of us end up complicating it to such a degree that it seems harder! Today I'm going to help you get back to basics by focusing on the most important element of attracting money and abundance: YOUR FEELINGS.

Before you begin this exercise, it's very important that you be relaxed. I mean VERY relaxed. Why? Because you cannot attract abundance from a state of tension, frustration or anger. Feeling negative in any way will block your abundance from arriving, plain and simple.

For this exercise you will want to set aside a minimum of 20 minutes and find a quiet place where you won't be disturbed. Sit quietly in this place and close your eyes. Take some slow, deep breaths and imagine that you can feel tension and stress flowing out of your body with every exhale. Set aside scattered thoughts and tune in to your body as you focus on relaxing every set of muscles from the top of your head down to your feet. Ideally you want to spend a minimum of 10 minutes just on the relaxation portion of the exercise.

Tuning Into Abundance

Once you feel completely relaxed and calm, imagine what it would feel like to have a lot of money. However, I don't want you to visualize in the "traditional" way for this exercise.

Rather than projecting your mind into a future time and seeing yourself living in that future reality where you have plenty of money, instead focus on what it feels like to have a lot of money RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW in your present reality. Imagine that you can FEEL this large sum of money here, in your life right now, and you now see your current circumstances in a totally different way.

You now have plenty of money to pay your bills in full and on time. You now have plenty of money to buy the vehicles you want, live wherever you want, support worthwhile causes, start your own business - whatever financial goals you have, imagine that they are all within your grasp RIGHT NOW.

Focus on how GOOD that feels! Really get into the feeling of having everything you need; that there is no shortage, no lack, no struggle when it comes to money. Enjoy knowing that you never have to worry about money again.

Stay with these wonderful feelings of freedom and peace for as long as you can, ideally 10 minutes or more. If you've never done an exercise like this before, it may take several minutes to really tune into the feelings fully, or you may find that you can tune into them fairly quickly but they slip away easily and you have to start over to capture them again. That's okay! Be patient, keep working at it and it will get easier.

What to Expect

The first thing you'll probably notice after completing this exercise is that you feel GREAT! Physically and emotionally you'll feel very light, calm and happy. Challenges will seem less intimidating and you'll feel hopeful and optimistic about your future.

In my experience this is one of THE most powerful and effective ways to attract money and other forms of abundance, and it usually works FAST - sometimes almost immediately. In some cases it can take longer, especially if you've been struggling with lack for a long time. Also note that the results will often be modest to begin with but if you keep up with the exercise daily you should see your results beginning to grow bigger over time.

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Fighting Children - What To Do

2009-04-23T15:44:00.000-07:00

Experiencing the impact of parenting is when you have more than one child. This will seem like crack to parents one child. When you’re parent of one, two or more, then you’ll able to relate. What I’m driving at is the constant disagreement among children, which always result in fighting.

Positive circumstance still occur with parent of more than one children, an opportunity to learn. For example, learning to share, to cooperate and love and get along with others. Many wonderful thing do happen with parents of more than one child, yet other parent wouldn’t agree.

I have written articles about the burden parents carry raising their children, especially when they don’t agree on common things. At times parents feel frustrated, thinking nothing is working. A typical parents reaction to their children fighting include: shouting, accusing, spanking, grounding and very hard on them. Like I have written the above action will only worsen the situation.

When parents react this way, they don’t that’s what the children wants, to engage you in power struggle. They want to make sure you lose, usually, parents of this kind will eventually give in. the right to do in this situation is first stay calm, my other articles discuss strategies parents can apply to put the situation under control. Try to stay out the situation in non judgmental way. Make them settle things for themselves. During the calm period, parent approach their children and teach them negotiation skills. Teach them the importance of win win situation, this will benefit both the children and parents.

Parents should learn to make their children know they’re proud of them. Highlight that part of them you want then to improve on, tell it to them and watch them shine. Also when there’s dispute among them, show them you have the confidence that they can handle the situation calmly, and see what happens.

You can come down to the child level offering to help but they call the shots. That’s they must decide to hand whatever they’re disputing over.

Parents should learn to accept this kind of behavior from children, is part of their growing up. So affirm and accept the feeling. All feelings are O.K., but not all actions are. A parent can say, "You felt very angry at your sister because she broke your truck. You can tell her with words, not hitting." Keep in mind that the bad feelings need to come out before we can get to the good feelings

Whatever it is your children act is do not meet them with aggression, it only make you angry more. Apply the skills of negotiations and cooperation when dealing with your children. This skills can also be taught to your children, this will make a big difference in their lives.

Family Meetings

2009-04-23T15:41:00.000-07:00

Enhancing cooperation and closeness is the number one purpose of family meetings. Ideas for family meetings are outlined below:

Every member of the family can decide to meet once a week. Time should be constant, no room for vacillating. Every one must agree to a specified time. Just like business schedule, so this time should be in the heart and mind of the family members.

Interruption can’t be afforded this time, so any distraction laid aside, example, phone switched off. Your children will know how serious you value this time, thus play along.
Agreement should be met every member, not by majority. Everyone must agree on the same thing. Sometimes decision cannot be made, then promise yourselves to table it in the next meeting.

A leader and secretary is mandatory at every meeting, but must rotate to different person handling the post in the next meeting. The leader responsibility is to run and make sure every member is aware of the meeting. Supporting the leader is what the other member should do, by being punctual, maintain a peaceful atmosphere. Records are taken by the secretary in an orderly manner.

Pleasantries are used in the beginning of the meeting, usually started by the leader, welcoming other members of the family. Parent should teach their children to say thank you, when they receive compliments.

List of what to be discussed should be kept close by, so every other member see it and prepare for it, for the next meeting. Any situation that arose during the week that’s worth deliberating on, should be written down for the next meeting.

Problem solving usually have time of it’s own. The leader can ask if anyone have any problem. Parents should let their children know that if there is anything in the house or the rules that need amendments, they should also provide solution.

A family meeting is a time to make relationship stronger, so plan activities before the meeting.
Family meeting must not be done during meal time. Place vital to hold this meeting, should be in the sitting room.

The leader should find fun ways to end the meeting. The meeting can end by everyone participating in a game, taking a snack etc.

Kids Deserve A Chance

2009-04-23T15:36:00.000-07:00

Interestingly, you’ll be surprise to know that the most underused and wasted natural resources are not the elderly or our parents but our children. So many ideas, energy wasted. If learn to count on our children, there will be great difference.

The limiting mindset we’re carrying that needs to discarded. The number one, is the mindset that children shouldn’t be seen in the adult gathering nor heard from. Another is the one that says children are useless unless they’re molded to have a purpose in life, it’s as if they don’t have spirit. The one that mostly cause trouble at home, that parents saying their will or no other. They are the only way or rather the means to the end.

The late 60’s and 70’s that research convince us that infants could not only hear and see and able to effectively understand parents response. They problem is not with our children but our limited understanding our children’s emotional state is in a sense I it’s infancy.

When it comes to information or support, our children is the person we turn to help. For example , there have fight among African-American for long time now, and it’s a problem in the society and we want to address the issue. How are we going to go about it. Are going to assume the ” My will or no other ” mindset or involve the teens in the creating a successful campaign? Choosing the last option would be the best. This is one of the biggest problems campaigners have, even at home. The children are left out of the equation. No wonder crime refuse to go down, even when there’re security implements in place. We’re dealing with humans here and not machines.

Parents, community planners, Government, presidents etc should remember that next time a project that involves promoting peace in the neighborhood, city, state or country is planned, the youth should be involved, it starts with the parents, but we don’t seems to value them.

A friend of mine told of how a 13 year old baby sitter, wendy who was the only child living with her grand parents used to hang around their house. One day his wife, Julie, asked her if she could help balance their checkbook. It was surprising to her, a chance to learn something. Julie showed her how. For the next year wendy would come to julie’s house and tackle with the checkbook. Julie told of how the look on wendy’s face when she left the house was that of being proud, valuable and responsible. Something as simples as asking a child to help balance a checkbook would may her feel she’s contributing to something worthwhile.

List practical ways children could be of value to us and their community. It could be involving in community cleaning, the neighborhood by picking litters, helping the elderly in their wheelchair, volunteering at their school, involving in family project, their ideas and opinions about a problems could go a long way.

Little and large ways children can help contribute, a chance to be valuable member of the society. Children wants to be viewed as valuable in their homes, community as well the society. This translate to having good records. Both parents and children benefit in the long run. The mindset that children cannot be of any help isn’t the way to go in this situation. Let them be of service to others, this make them feel good about themselves.

You reap what you sow, children will have the feelings of love and peace and fulfillment when they go out of their way to be of service to others. Children have 70% answers to questions like pregnancies, teen suicide, violence anger etc. Children should be consulted in this matters, their input would give assistance in finding a lasting solution.

Battle of Wills

2009-04-23T15:27:00.000-07:00

Children have a way of saying to their parent how they want to be at liberty even at an early age of two. Parents have experience with this kind of attitude in their child. They feel overpowered and this kind of power struggle begins and gets going into when they’ve become teenagers. Naturally it’s like this with every children, and parent can turn things around. If unchecked, resentment is felt towards their parent. You as parent can turn your child attention away from such behavior by being creative and clever in changing your child attitude of being stubborn, negative, aggressive or violent behavior. You’ll be using this time to help them become better children.

Never Overpower

Instead of parents seeing their children as “evil” and acting in such a way that the child feels intimidated, you can instead see this behavior as a good sign of their development and look for ways to help. At about the age of two at different level children acts as if they’re individual without the need of parenting care. They want to make decisions for themselves, commanding the other person, claim ownership, getting their way.

When parent intimidate children by overpowering them, they feel unimportant. Every human wants to feel important, including children. When they get overpowered by their parents they react in a negative way, they want to fight back usually through violence and aggression. When parents can see the positive side of their child’s action they can help the child feel powerful, valuable and important through other means that create a good relationship they will favor both child and parent.

Back Down

To diffuse any power struggle, the first thing to do is to back down the struggle, that means refuse to cooperate, refuse to be part of their game. You might be involve in situation whereby you ask your two year old if he want to nap and get a “NO”. That’s an invitation to power struggle. Let’s say you back down by telling him, if he wants to talk to his bed or if he wants you to carry him? You will likely get a positive response.

When parents don’t understand what the child is aiming at, they get trapped as the child wants it, thus wasting valuable time yet the desired behavior remain unattainable. But by creating a positive end that happy and loving rather breeding hatred and pains, the child cooperated. When you back down, the message you’re sending your child is “I love you, I’m not fighting and you’re not getting into me”

Options and not Command

After backing down the next thing to do is to give options. Let’s take diaper change for example, the child is unwilling to cooperate, and then give the child options, wish room to have it change. Again he might disagree, then ask which bed. Keep up with it until the diaper is changed. That’s one most effective way to take the struggle from children, because if you choose to use force to get your way, there will be consequences. Read my other articles to know what damage is been done.

Parents should mind the kind of options they’re giving their children, it must be acceptable and not the command type of options.

When you do give them options, it shouldn’t be the ones that’s stressful, see children want to express themselves, make it look as if they’re in control, give them freedom. Let them be comfortable with the options.

Also to add is that it should not be one of fear and intimidation, that’s kind of punishment, they’ll sense it and refuse to cooperate. The command or forceful options should be ruled out.
Look for Ways to make them feel in control

Whenever you witness this power struggle attitude in your children, take the time to question yourself “how can I give my child more power in this situation?” A single father did asked himself this question concerning the situation had with his four year old child, about switching off the light switch in his room. He ended the situation when he made the child lord of all light switches in the house.

Do the Unexpected

Another effective way of backing power struggles down, suddenly asking both of you out on a treat, when the child will be expecting a fight. This action immediately put him off balance, they never see it coming. But you should know the reason for this, you’re not rewarding a bad behavior but building the relationship with your child, thus creating a cooperative atmosphere for the next meeting.

Create A Win Win

When children engage in power struggle with their parents, it’s like a game to them, they want to win and see their parents lose. Parents should understand this about them but rather create a situation where the two parties, in this case you and the child comes to agreement. Negotiation is the word here. Remember when you involve your children into discussions like this, you’re building confidence in them to stand for themselves out there. Parent can help their children by using remarks that motivates. Let then know that you’re want them to get what they want but you as parents will like to win too, therefore they find a situation where every one come out a winner.

The Dreaded “NO”

Parents should be careful with that word. This alone could cause a whole lot of trouble for you or rather how you respond when your children respond with a “NO”. How the media has unfortunately influence parents to refuse their kids requests by the use of “NO”. What is happening is the wrong use of attitude. Supposing they look at their kids response of NO as a disagreement rather than disrespectful. Let the children know how they should respond with NO respectfully. Very important; parents should ingrain this response in their children, something you want your child to master when faced with pressure to learn unhealthy habits or find themselves in unfavorable situations.

Overpowering Create Revenge

When a child is overpowered or feels unimportant due to their parents treatments, will begin to develop bad intents. They want to overpower others to compensate for the ill feeling or treatment they get and this sort of behavior in turn hurt them. Though revenge differs with age, for a two and three will come out as using offensive words and playing with food or pills. For a sixteen and seventeen, it will come out drug and alcohol abuse, street gangs, truancy, pregnancy etc.

When children engage in power struggles, it’s only because they feel unimportant and valuable in the homes or in the society and fells like nobody cares about them. Parents goals is to raise self reliant children’s that grow to become adults that can make good decisions and have the strength to choose whatever is appropriate in any situations. Put your child creative to test, make him important and powerful is the most useful way you deem fit.

Sparing The Rod: The Effective Way

2009-04-19T14:30:00.000-07:00

When a child behave badly, then spanking is employed to correct the bad behavior. Spanking is the most applied method parents turn to in correcting their child’s behavior, it’s the only way they know of. Studies have shown that spanking have negative effect on children, for example, in other to correct the mess they’ve caused, they use violence and aggression in solving the problem. Employing spanking as the only means of correction, they become violent and aggressive, this is the very thing society complains about, yet parent breed the very same in their children. Apart from making them violent and aggressive, it has psychological effects, like having low self-esteem, become depressed. In this article, I’ll be listing Nine things to do instead of spanking and still get the child to change the bad behavior.

1 Be Composed

Be your self. Have the situation under control. Whatever the situation, you may feel compel to spank the child, don’t. Leave the situation for other time. Use that time to be calm and quiet. Usually when you’re calm, other ways to deal with the situation will come to mind. Parent feels that if the situation isn’t handled immediately by spanking, the child will see them as unserious. It’s quite the opposite, the child will get confused, they’ll never see you coming. Stress is the number one reason parents feel like jumping on their children immediately they get annoyed by their acts. Another thing you can do if the situation must be handled right there is to be calm and take few deep breath and count to twenty.

2 -Care For Your Self

Stress being the main reasons why parent want to hurriedly spank their children, it is good to make time for yourself. Take the time to relax, read or exercise.

3 -Be Open and Firm

A frustrating situation is when you tell your child to behave yet they will acts the way they like, it’s annoying and they get spanked. The solution here is to reach down to their level and talk to them. Children want attention. That’s what they want from you. So go down, touch them gently and firmly instruct them what you want them to do.

4 Give Them Options

Letting your child have options is another effective method. If he making noise while watching a TV programme, tell him to stop making noise or he will go to his room. If he continues with the noise making, be gentle with him. Tell him to go to his room and that he can return when he’s ready to be quiet.

5 -Logical Grounding

Punishment that directly relate to way the child behaved is the best at instilling responsibility. For example, your child litters your neighbor’s swimming pool and you reacted by spanking him. He’ll know the reason why he’s been spanked and learn to prevent it from happening again, but there is another side to it and that’s his honesty. He will begin to cultivate the habit of telling lies, hide his mistakes, not get caught. Remember I mention how spanking make the child look down on himself, he will begin to see himself as a bad person or develop anger towards his parents. Spanking children is not always the best solution to making them a better child. yes he might behave just because he doesn’t want to get hit again.

Let’s take another approach a better one at correcting the child that litters your neighbors swimming pool. Tell him what he has done and what steps he’s going to take to rectify the situation. Be open and firm when you tell him this. The child decides to keep the pool neat several time to repay for his deeds. This teaches the child to take responsibility for his action. The child still retain his self pride and the focus is taken off his misdeed and it’s put on taking responsibility for repairing it. Thus, there no hostility felt for his parents.

6 - Do Make Ups

Even when your child agrees to the rules made out for them, they will sometimes break it and this might cause you to spanking your child. There is another way to go around it, that is to get your child to make up for the trouble he has caused. For example, suppose your child did a sleep over at his friends house when you gave a clear instruction not to leave the house, an effective way to deal with the situation is first explain to him how disappointed you were for disobeying you and the importance of keeping their word. Then ask the child for a makeup. He could decide to wash your cars several times, let him choose how he’s going to makeup. This will build excitement and make him to take promises serious.

7 -Back Down from Conflicts

When you child is pushing your buttons through temper tantrum or being angry, because you wouldn’t grant his request, do not show any emotion, it’s best if you leave the place, telling him, you’re in the next room if he wants to try again.

8 - Use kind but firm action

The usual way of spanking children when they’re heading toward an object that could be injurious to them can be averted by simply taking them out of the place and offer something that will keep their attention. You may have to keep on taking them to this knew place if they’re persistent.

9 - Discuss Changes Before Hand

A child tantrum alone can cause the parent to resort to spanking. And they usually behave such when they feel overpowered or uninformed before hand. Instead of telling your child he has to leave his friend’s house at a moment’s notice, tell him that you will be leaving in five minutes.

Help Parenting Teens Part 3

2009-04-17T14:39:00.001-07:00

Mindset Four

That you must exert control over your child else you'll be sorry.

This can only be true if your previous relationship with your kid is zero. That's is if you've not invest time to add value, yes, this fear is justified. You will be making matter worse by deciding to control, rather what you should do is seek balance between you and your child. The kind of freedom today’s youth have, parents don't have them when they were young. This is mainly due to parents spending longer time at work, which gives teens enough time to dabble into things that may not be healthy for them. Nobody to supervise them, they get to watch movies of their choice, browse the internet. These privileges should be determined by the parents.

What to do--- Be willing to listen

When you perceive control as the last option for your child, you might want to first know why your child is behaving the way he is, it could be that there is a request he want fulfilled. Find out and make sure to listen. The next step is weigh this request base on their level of maturity and how responsible they are. Even if they don't qualify, the way you answer them matters a lot. You would want to change that "NO" word to something more subtle. If you must disagree, at least listen to the "why" they want what they're requesting, else you cause problems. You can decide to let them have their way but with limits. Teach them how they should design a convincing argument. Let them know the difference between Needs and Wants, you can ask them to make list of their Needs and wants. Having time to teach them all these vital things, go a long way in instilling confidence in them, drawing them closer to you.

Let them know their limits

When you set limits for your teens, they might get agitated by it. It's ok. You might hear them say how hard your rules and they wish their friend's family is their parents. But don't make anything a surprise for your teens, they must be involved, when the rules are being made and also means respecting their point of view. Make sure the rules are agreed upon. Expect drama, they will sometimes disagree with some rules. It will get heated, take a break before continuing. Let them know after the break, you discuss it together. This will make each you reflect on what happened and what to say to agree on the same ground. You must understand the importance of not showing any kind of parental control in the discussion. Show no emotion when your teen begins to argue, that's their nature, they will argue for the sake of arguing. It's just a way of defending their position. Be ok with it.

Doing this don't not make you less parent, but creating balance of power and control. When you involve teens in decision making process, it make them feel they important and valued in the family, and this further strengthen their relationship with you.

Mindset five

That teen are temperamental, rebellious and never serious

Always look at the brighter side of the teens life. The must be some good about the teen, fill yourself with these. Teens are very creative, have many ideas about life. Teens are not adult yet, they're still growing. Their mental and social aspect of their lives is improving. Physical changes are taking places within them, their thinking and reasoning is becoming complex, your support at this is very valuable at this time of their developmental phase. Let them know you're there to guide them, thus making them making the right decisions.

What to do---Look out for the positive developing aspect to mold into what you want.

Part of what they want to know about as they growing up is the issue of relationships and their bodies, make sure you're ready to fill them with information. If you don't they will seek for the information else where, through sources like television, internet, magazines. They want to know about the unknown. Let them know you're there for them, to listen, talk, answer the questions, find groups for them to join. They sometimes act out adult roles. Be the right model for them to follow. Be very close to their friends, to know where they're when you're not with them.

To effectively influence teens, realize that what you do is more important to what you say. If parents practice what they preach, influencing the teens becomes much easier. They watch us how we do things, this is what's to them the right thing to do. If you want to child to tell you where they, who they with and what they're doing, you should show your child how go about it, by providing this same information to their children. If parents want their children to be respectful, to have god manners and not to use foul language, then parent should model this same behavior to their children and to other adults.

Mindset Six

That teen alone care about themselves

Everything your child is, is what you communicated. If you desire your child to be thoughtful of others, then communicate these qualities to them by caring talk and showing that you really care. Act the way your teens to act, they will mirror the same back to us. It is what you give them they will give back. Engage each other with caring talk asking why question in an interesting way. Start by using open-ended questions. It could be a movie you’re watching or observing people. You can learn to use it anywhere, ask questions such as, What do you think about... ? Why do you think they acted that way? How could we figure this out? The result is building the child to be thoughtful of other which in turn change his outlook towards others.
You must also learn to let them know you admire certain qualities about them. Name what you admire about them and encourage them to build on it.

Do these and you gradually begin to build trust, not only building it, it should be maintained making sure it isn't misused. The use of caring talk is very important if want your child to act that way, but remember to model it first, then rest will follow. The effect is respect for others, moral development and caring behavior towards others.

Invest time. Teens want to spend more time with their parents, if their parent will only listen to them. Put the whole of you into it. Also let you teens be teens, realize that they will sometime want to argue, let them it's part of their makeup. Get comfortable with this stage of development, but let them know what you expect of them. Communication is very important here, by letting them know what you expect from them, and as long as you make yourself approachable, there be no problem.

Know that teens need attention just as your other depended children only this time in a different way. So do not exclude your teen because he's able to express himself with more freedom.

Teens are individuals. Whatever you want your child to become, model them first to your child. Your child will represent you out side, what value have you impacted to him? Know this, and put things right. Talk with your teens and show them how you want it done. Your job as a parent is love and guide them right.

Help Parenting Teens Part 2

2009-04-17T14:34:00.000-07:00

Mindset Two

That teens favor the company of their friends more than their parents.

When do children start spending time with friends than parents? School. It is usually where they make friends and attach importance to them. This how they build their individuality by what they do. Where they go and who they know. The ones that feel inferior, usually get dominated by their aggressive type of friends. When parents teach their children values, build confidence and how to make the right decisions early enough, this issue of children choosing their friend to their parents will not come up.

It is very important, parents allow their children to make decision on little things, like tidy up their room, what clothes to wear, the game to play. When you groom your children this way, then as it will be easier for them to make tough decisions. If you keep on instructing them on what to do as if they are robot that’s to programmed to do task, what you're doing is building up a zombie. The will to make decision will be weakened and they listens to others.

What to do---Always be concerned and stay close at all time.

Get involved into their life, find out what's bothering them, encourage them to talk, practice listening to them. Be part of their life, study them, know the type of friends they're making, finding out how their day is like in school and how teens world is like. But when parents choose work over their children, there little or no time to interact. You're not adding values into their life. You must invest time for them, if you want to be proud of them in the future. Be wiling to put the effort to effect change in their lives. Here some few suggestions to help:

Always make your children know that you're willing to listen to them any time.

There're times when the family stay together even if for few minute, use it to impact values into them. When you all are together, what ever you're doing whether, turn it into quality family time.

At bed time, endeavor to check on them. This aspect is mainly ignored by parents, thinking their teenage children are too big for things like this. Making time to check on them, shows that you care.

Knowing who your child hangs out with is very important, invite them to the house sometimes.

Mindset Three

That they keep to themselves more often and won't open up.

Teens do like to talk. The only reason why it seems they don't talk is because people don't listen. You must be willing to listen to them, don't interrupt them half way by showing that you more than they do, and when you listen, be an active listening, listen with interest, connect with them. If don't, they will find people who can listen to them, thus falling into the wrong hands. There is something about teens that need mentioning, force don't go well with them, it tunes them out. So go slow with the command talk. Teens have things they wish they know more about, they want to discuss this with parents hoping to get their view, since they're adult and have dealt with issues like these in their lives. Some of the things they want to talk are:

Family matters -Vacations, decisions, rules, curfews, serious illness, money problems.

Controversial issues - Sex, lifestyles, drugs.

Emotional issues - Parents' feelings about them and other things.

Big whys - Why do people go hungry? Why is there war? Other philosophical issues.

The future - Work, college, making plans for their life beyond the current home.

Current affairs - World and community happenings.

Personal interest - Sports, hobbies, friends.

Parents themselves - What were parents like at their age, stories that show parents are real.

Ten Steps To A Better Parent

2009-04-17T14:23:00.000-07:00

Parents should discipline themselves to teach their children about responsibility, motivate them, time to build on their self esteem and make them feel wanted. When your children know that parents are there for them all the time, they would not have time to give in to street gangs, drugs or sex.

The ten steps below are proven sure fire method that works.

1 - Make Time For Your Children

Work on the parents – children relationships. Make time for your child, it greatly influenced their self worth. These days parents spend longer time at work or they are so engrossed with their personal affairs that they forget about their children needs. Parents should take time to learn to listen effectively to their children, it is important to the children else they look outside to those that will listen. Misbehavior often arises due to parental neglect. The misbehavior is a way of getting their parents attention, they don’t like to be ignored.

Children need their parents emotional support, so parents needs to be strong for their children. Sometimes, when children are starved with attention, they would demand it every possible way. To children, it’s their birthright to have their parents attention. They needs your company, it’s has positive effect on the social, emotional and mental growth.

2 -Show You’re Serious

They say action speaks louder than words, this is what you want your children to know about you. Discipline is a must tool here. Instead of nagging or yelling at your kids and leave things undone, your children won’t take you serious. Instead of nagging, always “ask yourself what action would be appropriate to take in this situation” For example, after you must have given your child the instruction to clean up the room, actually go there, and make sure it is done.

3 - Give Them Little Freedom to Express Themselves

Children want to feel that they’re important and of value, make sure you give them little freedom to express themselves. Let them also have a say in house. For example, they can be involved when rules are being made about their limits, they usually don’t like surprise rules. You can sometimes seek their advice, let them have choice, choose the house chore they feel comfortable with, decision about what clothes to wear or what game to play. Parents want to do everything for their children, the result is that they feel unimportant.

4 - Cause and Effect

Sometimes children choose to take certain action then realize that it has negative effect, this is where parents enter or interfere, so they learn what their action has lead them into. Using this techniques allow for reduced stress instead of the nagging and yelling, you allow the consequence of their action do the talking and put the necessary punishment in place. When your child have a case of forgetting, example would be, forgets her lunch, don’t take it to her. Let her find solution and learn the importance of remembering.

5 -Logical Grounding

Often the consequence of a child action, are just too out their league, they would not understand the logic behind the grounding you’re giving them and thus resent your action. The idea behind grounding children to make them realize the negative outcome of what they’ve done. For example, if your child forget to return his video and you ground him for a week, that punishment could cause resentment but if you return the video for him and deduct the money from his allowance or make him work for the money, then, he will realize what he’s being grounded for.

Here is a link to a book that teaches you a stress free way of grounding your children.

6 -Emotion Free

When you child is pushing your buttons through temper tantrum or being angry, because you wouldn’t grant his request, do not show any emotion, it’s best if you leave the place, telling him, you’re in the next room if he wants to try again.

7 –The Deed and The Doer

Never look down on your child, and more importantly, don’t tell them they’re bad, it lowers their self pride. By so doing, you’ll be causing more harm than good. Let them know how you see two different individual, themselves and their bad behavior. It help them a lot when you talk this way, separating their deed from them, they’ll feel empowered to correct their act. No matter what they do, let your love for them be unconditioned. Removing your love from your kid as a way making them realized what they’ve done is not the right way to go. When in doubt, ask yourself how your action will affect his self esteem.

8 -Be Open and Firm

When you give your child instruction to follow, let him know how serious you’re and when you’re in making sure the instruction is carried out, do so in a loving manner. Make sure whatever you do with your children, be firm with them yet loving in making sure your instructions are carried out.

9 -Picture The End in Mind

You should have the end in mind of how your want your children to look like when they’ve become adults. When you set goals like this for your children, you will be thoughtful in applying your parenting skills. The wanting your children behave a certain way now, will make your children will overpowered and this could cause them to be rebellious.

10 -Follow Ups

When you’ve made it clear to your children what they can and cannot have, make sure you follow through, no matter their pleas or cries. Children have a way of testing their parents to see if they’re really what they’ve preaching. You’re building a model for them to follow, and they will respect you for practicing what you preach.

Good luck with parenting, as you apply these ten steps.

Help Parenting Teens Part 1

2009-04-16T21:18:00.000-07:00

While children grow into teenagers, all one hears about is how they cause problems, how they don't respect their parents but the truth is, majority of these teens are very respectful and problem free. The media, is one offender of all, you never hear any positive things about teens.

The tasks teens give to their parents are tough. The problem parents have with teens is that, they look upon themselves as adults, they're more loud, and they do things and fight battles as if they are adults. No matter what you tell them at this stage is usually brushed aside. Though they don't turn into teens overnight, this is their major characteristics, and it is worth watching out for.

Parenting is complicating, but its vital for the upbringing of a child. Children don't just act the way they do, so many things happen that influence their behavior, like source of aid, what make up the child, strain on the body, help from schools, friends, family all for the better child, these are parental guideline.

Children don't become hard to control all of a sudden. Whether it's drug abuse, irresponsibility, sexual activities or rebel to authority, all these can be prevented. teens are humans you know, it's just some limiting mindset about them that needs conditioning. There are some apparent ones that's worth examining.

Mindset one

That Peer Pressure is the determining factor in the teens life. Yes we know this about peer pressure, but it depends largely on the parental relationship with the child. When a child comes to adolescent age, they tend to move with friend with same qualities as theirs or something they've been planning to do and see another of their kind doing it, then they will want to learn it from this person. Parents will always be the deciding factor in the child life, the earlier parents know this, the better. Studies have shown that parents that police their kids, prevent any unpleasantness, and this includes interest in alcohol use, promiscuous act, delinquency, and other irresponsible conducts. When parents monitor their children every now and then, the message is clear to the children that, they can't just get any thing they want without being responsible.

What to do--When parent follow-up on their kids, it's a kind of a guidepost and it puts your child in the right place thus informing you of what is going on in their world. This means being aware of:

The place your kids are
The person or group they are with
Their intention, as in what they are planning to do
The routes they usually take

Part of your job as a parent, is making provisions for the future, by instructing your kids what to do in times of emergency. Forcing your children to obey your every instructions, making the child bend to your will or choice, or attempting to control their way of life, that i will not count as monitoring.

Children are more at peace with their parents when they know that they care to ask them about their quirks, even when they complain how their parents don't trust them or they are irresponsible.

You don't have to wait until your child get to their teen before you start monitoring them. If you do, it will be a case of who has the territory. Monitoring them at an early age is recommended. It will make the children see it as part of growing up. To them it feels natural and they're ready to put in their support. Make sure as they grow, they're given room to express themselves and by letting your monitoring be courteous and advantageous. Monitoring your child at an earlier age may be the best option; it can be implemented at any time.

You cannot always be around to watch your kid, but putting the necessary rules in place will help a lot. Making phone calls will help know where your children are, enlisting the help of a relative and making calls to make sure all is well, that's only when the parents are away.

When Parents Objects To Marriages

2009-04-15T16:18:00.000-07:00

Sometimes parents don't feel right for the person we brought home as our suitor, and as a result of this, our relationship with our parents can be severed a lot.

You correct this by taking the necessary measures.

Let your parents really know why you chose this person. You can't blame your parents, because they don't now this stranger, setup a situation where your parents and your partner will meet, to get a feel of each other. This is the time for your parents to really feel free to probe this partner of yours. give the time to let go of their fears.

You may be really be shocked at the kind questions your parent ask, most of which are embarrassing, but all you can do is to let them, let them have their way. If your partner appears to be losing it, stay calm, like they say, agree to disagree. You will still have time to cement the rough edges, remember it is about your happiness, and all parents knows this.

You should know it is all about you, it is you who wants to get married and not your folks, if you deeply love this person, you can still go ahead and be together, but you should realize the importance of parental blessings. So if your parents don't like your partner, it's a no for them, even when you're pregnant, they might not agree with you. It all boils down to familiarity, if this single factor alone is missing, you might have a hard time with your parents. so the solution here is to wait a little, for parents to get comfortable with you partner.

One way to help your parent get over this fear, is to go for counseling. The reasons why this is happening is because of the high level of attachment your parents have for you and it's very hard for them to let go.

Parents disapproval of your suitor is one and another is your partner himself. Could it be that your parents disapproval is a sign that this partner is not the right person for you? How well do you know this person? Are you sure you are getting the amount of love you are giving out? Search your heart deep down. Do you still want to marry this person? if you are having a second thought about this matter, you should postpone the all arrangements for wedding, to get time to think a little.

This parental can still be carried over into your matrimonial home. You should still expect something like this and it is also time to let them know their limit. Discuss this with your spouse, as how to go about it, so that things like this should not cause more problems than good.

It is no news that one of married couples isn't wanted by their in-laws, in cases like this it is advisable that the one hated shouldn't attend family gatherings or see your parents with you but it is equally important that because of this, your partner convinces you to distance yourself from your parents, never consent to that idea. You will be sending the wrong signal to your parents when you let that happen. Remember, one of your duties is to help your parents see how wonderful your spouse is.

When you begin witness increased signs of criticism, distrust and conflict in your marriage, seeing a marriage counselor should be the logical option.

It is our responsibility to balance our relationship between our spouse and our parents.

When Do Parenting Cease?

2009-04-14T19:37:00.000-07:00

The goal of parenthood is to raise children who are able to think on their on feet. When the child has passed through childhood to adulthood, at this point he is able to assume responsibility for his actions, cater for himself, probably thinking of settling down with another partner, then this should be the part where his parent can have sigh of relief, right?

Raising kids is no easy task. The process is very demanding, it's a learning process as well as you get different experiences with kids, until finally where you'll have to let go of your binds. Looking back after when the authority have been handed over, there still this fear that he will not be able to handle situations well. It is at this stage most parents will want to interfere in their adult child life. The way i see this letting go stuff is that, one has to keep on reminding himself that he has let go and leave it at that.

The truth is that parenthood never stops. On like when the child is born, you assume responsibility for the care but to say that it ends, i don't think so. It's not that parenting don't actually stop, it does, the problem is the attachment to the child. To Parent, the adult children are still that little baby who can't help himself. Surprisingly, that is how most parents see their adult child.

The old method of checking in children, are still employed by parents to interfere into their adult children life, summary of the methods are below:

Policeman: You need to analyze when it is right to let the child have its way and when you should firmly put your foot down. It is all about balance and socio economic conditions. Give some freedom when required but deny something that is not good for him / her. This does not necessarily have to be similar to a policeman's behavior, but you can lovingly make the child understand what is good for him and what isn't.

Detective: Yes, you need to keep a hawk's eye on your child. And at times, it may even be necessary to contract a real detective if you suspect the whereabouts of your child. While some parents do not agree to this on the pretext that they trust their children, I will still agree to it. You can trust the child but you cannot trust the environment, your child's friends, and the overall things that try to change or manipulate the thoughts, the feelings, the attitude and the general outlook on life, of your child.

Friend: More often than not, children trust their friends more than their parents. If you can be "that friend", you can be assured that the child won't hide anything from you, much less, do something against your wishes. If you've created that attitude from its early understanding stages, you shouldn't have a problem in accomplishing this goal.

It is essential to note that children today are tomorrow's giants. They shape our society. We should be rest assured that the training we've given them will guide through thick and thin. Just know that your responsibility as a parent continues to even when your child has gotten married. They still need our support, they just want know you'll be there when they call.

Birthstone Present For Mothers

2009-04-14T17:05:00.000-07:00

Getting the right present for your wife or girlfriend is usually a daunting task for men. You may have bought her clothes, shoes or other jewelries on various occasions but there nothing as personal as having one birthstone jewelries. There is a special feeling that comes with it, knowing this's your specialized birthstone jewelry. There is this strange unique feeling to it. You can make your wife's birthday more exciting by getting her, her Birthstone jewelry as a surprise gift.

As you might have guessed, there is a birthstone for every month of the year, starting from January to December. Each of the Birthstone is unique, some culture regard them as good luck charms. There are even tales of how these gems chase away evil spirits, bad moods etc. So giving your wife her exact Birthstone as a gift on either her birthday on any memorable day is considered a sign of good tidings.

Here is the list of months and their corresponding Birthstones

January - Garnet

February - Amethyst

March - Aquamarine, Bloodstone

April - White Topaz

May - Emerald

June - Pearl, Moonstone

July - Ruby

August - Peridot

September - Sapphire

October - Opal, Tourmaline

November - Yellow Topaz, Citrine

December - Turquoise, Blue Topaz

Young girls can also benefit from wearing Birthstones. There ones suited children and are cheap, like i said before, there is tranquil feeling that goes with it. it will thrill them that they are having jewelry just as mum does.

Birthstones can be set in variety metal types. Just get creative. If you are out of ideas, ask the jewelry sale person to show a catalog, of styles to choose from. They can also lead you to good embroider, to get the shape that will be perfect. Be sure to go for the ones that fit your wallet, but know that no matter what, your wife is going to thank you for it.

The Bond Between Parents and Their Children

2009-04-14T15:22:00.000-07:00

Bonding is the amount of attachment parent for the children. This show in acts of love and affection. It is the motivation that make parents get up at night to feed their baby and they are very attentive to the child’s signals.

Mothers bond to their children is the level of attachment between mother and child. When the mother's attachment level for the child is low, the child body activates reaction to unexpected events. With a secure mother bond for her child, comes the emotional and psychological foundations and maybe even the social and physical buffer the child needs to strive in the world.

The quality of attachment children receive affects how they relates to the world around them. It affect how they get along with friends, how well they perform in school and how they react to new, and possibly stressful situations. It has been found out that children that have good bond from their mothers are likely to be more self reliant, enjoy successful peer relationships and do well in school.

Learning how to bond with your children is a process, but the effect is that having strong ties with your children. The relationship between parents and child is very intimate and there is a sense of security.

Children are ready to bond with their parents, but for some parent they sometimes get mixed feelings about. For their newly born child or children, there is an intense attachment, while for adopted child, it could take longer time.

Getting to know when a child is bonding with his parent takes time to understand, but patience it will become clear. There are several ways children bond with their parents and these includes, touch, eye to eye gazing, imitating facial expression and gestures. Listening to human voice, cradling and gentle stroking. Father and mother touch.

It is very important for both partners to be involved in carrying the child, let there be skin to skin contacts, with time the child will be able to differentiate between the two. When it come to massaging, please educate yourself in the proper to go about it. Breastfeeding is major but fathers can use feeding bottles. Being sensitive to the child’s needs is also very important.
There are activities fathers and mum could together engage to further strengthens the bonding process.

Dad and Mum can take turns to feed the baby as well be attentive to the his needs.

Diaper change. This should be a wonderful experience for dads.

Reading bed time stories or singing.

Mirroring baby’s movements.

Mimicking baby’s cooing and other sounds.

Let the baby feel the different parts of dads face.

You need the support of everyone around to help confidence in your parenting abilities. This is the reason it recommended to stay in your room in the hospital where you have the emotional support of the staff. Make sure you don’t engage in too much hard labor. Relatives could help in the cooking or house chores, so you can have time for your baby needs.

Do you have problems bonding with your child, there thing you could do. Visit your child doctor, it could be that you’re still overwhelmed by the child’s arrival. It could be an health issues, this you must not take likely, visit the appropriate authorities to fix it. Another cause is when mothers spends long time at work and give their child up for day care centers. Most of these centers are low quality.

The quality of these centers matter a lot, because it has effect on the language and mental development of the child. If you must give your child up for day care centers, do choose the higher quality one, but it can never compensate for having time to bond well with your baby.
You meet other parents to explain what you are going through, and through their experiences, offer you tips that have worked for them.

Bonding with your children is very vital in parenting a child. This is main ingredient needed for the child growth and wellbeing.

Bonding here is not restricted to new born babies alone, you can also bond with your children as a way strengthening love ties. The whole bonding thing is about love anyway. We need love to grow.

PARENTING: CHILDREN AND THEIR MOTHERS

2009-04-13T14:44:00.000-07:00

Mothers are usually the deciding factor in parenthood. Remove mothers, and there is no parent. I know women don’t get pregnant by ghost. Though, I will be using the word parent a lot but this article it focuses on children and their mothers and how they could effectively enhance their role in raising well bred children.

I will like to start with Emotional states and how it influenced children and their mothers. Watching your emotional state is vital to your children’s wellbeing.
Studies have shown that positive emotion uplift every aspect of a child’s life, while negative emotional limits their progress. There is even more to the study. Parents exhibiting negative emotion dues to their outlook on life are more likely to pay less attention to their children, this includes nursing them with unhealthy diet.

Because of the poor view of the world and having had negative experiences of negative emotions, the likelihood of being in control of their kids is usually low and as a result they give in easily during an argument with their children. Parents with negative emotions usually get worried, fear, and appear helpless and insecure in too many occasion.

Show your children you love them dearly by engaging them in feeling and mental talk.
No one can explain Love, it is not a logical topic, attempt to, and you will find yourself spanning pages, yet not getting near it's true definition. Love can only be demonstrated, there is no other way. Parents especially mothers are adept in demonstrating love. It is as simply as holding your child in a loving gaze, and watch their inner light glow. There are cases of telepathy between mother and child, that's the evidence of the bond of Love.

Another silent talk you can have with your kids is the mental talk. You do this during bed time stories involving pictures. These acts increase bonding. The feeling and Mental talk are both ways of expressing love to your children.

Give your children the opportunity to love you back.
How is the atmosphere in the house? I am not talking about humidity levels or temperature, but the family atmosphere. One major acid test to find out, is your how close your children are to you. Love is a two way thing, you give, and you receive. There are things you must do to further draw them closer.

Watch your body Language.

Encourage them ask you any bothering questions, when you this, you must mean it. Fathers are guilty when it come to this, they will ask their children to ask any question, then when sexual topic is dropped, they get confused and show anger as a control tool. Not the way to go.

The children must their mothers and fathers as one, and not in pairs. It is very important. It has psychology effect on children, in this case, a positive one.

Promote religious gathering. We need God in our lives. This build a strong spiritual foundation. Religion as a tool can be used to imbibe values in your children. Whatever your faith, reading from the scriptures is a great way to strengthen love ties.

Sometime ago, a colleague of mine questioned, why the need to be a parent, when he can live his life to the end. I asked him to do a little visualization exercise. I had him vision himself five years from now, and what his future self thought of his present intention of not wanting to have children. He surely had an awareness shift. Worry came over him, he said he felt left behind and all the negative emotions. That simple visualization tool learned from Steve Pavlina Personal Development Website, has the effect of making one face reality. You can think what you are doing is the best, never going to change, but when you ask your Past and future self about it, your findings may startle you.

What has this got to do with Parenting? To the married couples who thought about living their lives like that till the end, in the name of Love, a selfish one at that, do you really want that life or there is a certain fear you are making all these excuses for. You can go for adoption, and experience the wonderful world of parenting.

Aside from being a parent, and having influence over your children, know that the school they attend is still another thing to consider. You want to monitor their progress at school. Very important. Most habits children learn which in turn influence their behavior, is from school. Take corrective measures to make sure they in the right footing.

Join the PTA. Check on their school work, observe your children behavior, be alert to any negative changes in them with which you must meet with discipline and encourage positive ones. Monitoring the children like this make them do better in school and they will thank you it .

Learn to let go. Sometimes you leave the children to think on their feet. Our children are very dear to us, we are so attached to them that even in adulthood we want to cling to them, to be at our every back and call. That is not the way of nature, they must someday leave us and start their own life. They need our support in every possible way.

When your child has come to adulthood and time has come for him to be alone, to start his own life, please fathers, and mothers, support him materially, be rest assured that the education plus the discipline you have given him, will lead him to the right path of life. This is where you cease worrying and start praying for him, for it is him and God now.

Sometimes when we see the way our children behave to us at home, we get worried that they going to be trouble when to go out. The reverse is always the case. In one of my articles, I mentioned that we just have be up and doing with our children, that you will have to keep on drumming your instruction plus discipline for as much as three hundred time for it to sink into their subconscious.

They are well behaved, only they do not want to show it, they just want to push our buttons due to the fact that we lay too much a heavy hand on them, so they become stubborn. They are well grounded, you have done a great job. Like I said before, sometimes, we are too hard on these kids. Practicing letting go, is the way.

There is this site i came across that ask for support for homeless children and their mothers. There are people out there that needs our help. I have done the digging around for its authenticity, it's a okay but feel free to do same. Nothing is too small, it is all About Making a Better Home. Here is the link to the site

Parenting Cross

2009-04-11T17:20:00.000-07:00

Parenting Cross? Why that title you may ask, but let's first discuss what it is meant by one's cross or rather carrying one's cross. Carrying ones cross is taking full responsibility for one's actions or the position the person is known for. No complaining, no worrying, just get by, if you make any mistake, you learn from it and keep going. Apply this to parenting, in this case, the responsibility to cater for your children's wellbeing.

I remember back in the day, in my teenage years, how mum will shout, beat me up, just to make sure i get what she asking me to do. Back then, I’ll curse, sweat, wish she will just leave me alone or something bad should happen to her, so that i will have all the freedom in the world. It is the same thing with kids. For example, is how children find fault with their teacher in school. How he doesn't like him and all that, and if you the parents isn't careful, you will be fueling a negative attitude which may turn into a troublesome behavior in the future.

Now, when i look at my like life now, i thank God for giving mother the wisdom not to give up on me and the strength to see it through. Many parents out there are unaware of how to go about raising their kids the proper way. No one knows it all, that is why this blog is created in the first place, to help educate parents.

To my experience and observation of countless families, this child raising business is really a mountainous job for most couples. They must realize that child rearing is the most difficult job ever, one that demands much patience and perseverance. For example, if you want your child to take his home work seriously whereas before he is not, you will need to keep on drumming it into his ears. As parents, you greatly influence your children, their subconscious mind is at your mercy, but also know that it is a great responsibility, because whatever your kids turns out to be in the future, is as a result of what you made of it! never forget that.

Know that you might have to repeat an instruction, like hundreds of times, before it will stick into a child consciousness. Never give up on your children, child rearing is a burden and at the same time privilege of parents around the world. My heart goes out you. You're blessed.

The Better Behavior Wheel: A Fun approach to child Behavior management

2009-04-09T19:05:00.000-07:00

If you are looking for ways to effectively discipline your children in most efficient way, you are in the right place. Julie Butler, a mother of four, is the Author of this ground breaking book, The Better Behavior Wheel. This book gives you a breakthrough discovery in child behavior management that's guaranteed to give you well behaved kids overnight, and she meant it.

Here's how it works:

Suppose your child is guilty of leaving the lights on after leaving a room. (This is always a big one in the household. Kids have no concept of what it costs to run a household and they just take it for granted that electricity is always there and it's free.) Since you've already made it a rule that the lights are to be turned off when leaving a room, it's now time to spin the Wheel.

Notice that you're not the bad guy here. The rule of turning off the lights was agreed to by your child. And now it's the Wheel that has to be answered to. You can be impartial in the process. You can even root for the child, hoping for an easy consequence.

When you start the program you are faced with a list of themes, or mis-behaviors to choose from. In this case you would choose Leaving the Lights On. Each of the consequences is logically related to the wasting of electricity. This helps drive home the lesson. Remember, the Wheel is about teaching ...not punishing.

To activate the Wheel, your child simply clicks on the Spin button. After the wheel stops spinning, a randomly generated consequence is displayed, along with a cool sound, generally of dismay.

The Better Behavior Wheel is certainly, a family companion. Conflict resolution becomes much easier to handle, home work get done, clothes get picked up, siblings rivalry issues stop, there is finally peace and quiet in the home and that a lot reduced stress for mum and dad. the presence of the wheel alone will have effects on your kids, they wouldn't displease you in way thus having to spin the wheel.

Click on this link to get your Copy

Parenting Techniques: Taming The Defiant Child

2009-04-09T18:53:00.000-07:00

Parenting is a challenge. Yes we know that. We also know that children are gifts from God, but where do this kid come from? You ask? Especially when there is no defiant gene in the family history.

Do the following describe your kid?

Does your child often:

· lose his temper
· argue with adults
· refuse to comply with rules and requests
· deliberately annoy people
· blame others for his mistakes and misbehavior

Is your child often:

· touchy and easily annoyed by others
· angry and resentful
· spiteful and vindictive

What you need in situations like this, is one who has vast experience in dealing with defiant children and frustrated parents. Mark Hutten, the Author of My Out-of-Control Child, shows you sets of very effective parenting techniques that are guaranteed to work.

Before give in to swearing, frustration and all, this book specifically teaches you how to flawlessly to about it.

Click here to ready all about it and get a copy

DETERMINE YOUR BABY GENDER

2009-04-09T18:38:00.000-07:00

Now you have the Power to choose between having a baby boy or Girl by a Following a 100% Natural, Shockingly Effective (94.8% Success Rate), & Unbelievably Simple Gender Selection System.... As Early as Tonight!

Here is a book that teaches you how to have either a baby boy or girl? I mean this is incredible, amazing. Whatever method is employed here, al I have to say is that this book is a time saver.
The Africans would sure love this book.

Africans are one people that hold on to the concept of a male child carrying his father’s name ahead. There are cases where a multi billionaires get grieved over how they are going to die leaving their wealth and name to be perished. In Africa women are not much appreciated. Anyway those are societal rules.

I don’t have much to say here, to dumbfounded to write, let the Author, Ashley Spencer tell you all about it here