PARENTING: CHILDREN AND THEIR MOTHERS

Mothers are usually the deciding factor in parenthood. Remove mothers, and there is no parent. I know women don’t get pregnant by ghost. Though, I will be using the word parent a lot but this article it focuses on children and their mothers and how they could effectively enhance their role in raising well bred children.

I will like to start with Emotional states and how it influenced children and their mothers. Watching your emotional state is vital to your children’s wellbeing.
Studies have shown that positive emotion uplift every aspect of a child’s life, while negative emotional limits their progress. There is even more to the study. Parents exhibiting negative emotion dues to their outlook on life are more likely to pay less attention to their children, this includes nursing them with unhealthy diet.

Because of the poor view of the world and having had negative experiences of negative emotions, the likelihood of being in control of their kids is usually low and as a result they give in easily during an argument with their children. Parents with negative emotions usually get worried, fear, and appear helpless and insecure in too many occasion.

Show your children you love them dearly by engaging them in feeling and mental talk.
No one can explain Love, it is not a logical topic, attempt to, and you will find yourself spanning pages, yet not getting near it's true definition. Love can only be demonstrated, there is no other way. Parents especially mothers are adept in demonstrating love. It is as simply as holding your child in a loving gaze, and watch their inner light glow. There are cases of telepathy between mother and child, that's the evidence of the bond of Love.

Another silent talk you can have with your kids is the mental talk. You do this during bed time stories involving pictures. These acts increase bonding. The feeling and Mental talk are both ways of expressing love to your children.

Give your children the opportunity to love you back.
How is the atmosphere in the house? I am not talking about humidity levels or temperature, but the family atmosphere. One major acid test to find out, is your how close your children are to you. Love is a two way thing, you give, and you receive. There are things you must do to further draw them closer.

Watch your body Language.

Encourage them ask you any bothering questions, when you this, you must mean it. Fathers are guilty when it come to this, they will ask their children to ask any question, then when sexual topic is dropped, they get confused and show anger as a control tool. Not the way to go.

The children must their mothers and fathers as one, and not in pairs. It is very important. It has psychology effect on children, in this case, a positive one.

Promote religious gathering. We need God in our lives. This build a strong spiritual foundation. Religion as a tool can be used to imbibe values in your children. Whatever your faith, reading from the scriptures is a great way to strengthen love ties.


Sometime ago, a colleague of mine questioned, why the need to be a parent, when he can live his life to the end. I asked him to do a little visualization exercise. I had him vision himself five years from now, and what his future self thought of his present intention of not wanting to have children. He surely had an awareness shift. Worry came over him, he said he felt left behind and all the negative emotions. That simple visualization tool learned from Steve Pavlina Personal Development Website, has the effect of making one face reality. You can think what you are doing is the best, never going to change, but when you ask your Past and future self about it, your findings may startle you.

What has this got to do with Parenting? To the married couples who thought about living their lives like that till the end, in the name of Love, a selfish one at that, do you really want that life or there is a certain fear you are making all these excuses for. You can go for adoption, and experience the wonderful world of parenting.

Aside from being a parent, and having influence over your children, know that the school they attend is still another thing to consider. You want to monitor their progress at school. Very important. Most habits children learn which in turn influence their behavior, is from school. Take corrective measures to make sure they in the right footing.

Join the PTA. Check on their school work, observe your children behavior, be alert to any negative changes in them with which you must meet with discipline and encourage positive ones. Monitoring the children like this make them do better in school and they will thank you it .

Learn to let go. Sometimes you leave the children to think on their feet. Our children are very dear to us, we are so attached to them that even in adulthood we want to cling to them, to be at our every back and call. That is not the way of nature, they must someday leave us and start their own life. They need our support in every possible way.

When your child has come to adulthood and time has come for him to be alone, to start his own life, please fathers, and mothers, support him materially, be rest assured that the education plus the discipline you have given him, will lead him to the right path of life. This is where you cease worrying and start praying for him, for it is him and God now.

Sometimes when we see the way our children behave to us at home, we get worried that they going to be trouble when to go out. The reverse is always the case. In one of my articles, I mentioned that we just have be up and doing with our children, that you will have to keep on drumming your instruction plus discipline for as much as three hundred time for it to sink into their subconscious.

They are well behaved, only they do not want to show it, they just want to push our buttons due to the fact that we lay too much a heavy hand on them, so they become stubborn. They are well grounded, you have done a great job. Like I said before, sometimes, we are too hard on these kids. Practicing letting go, is the way.

There is this site i came across that ask for support for homeless children and their mothers. There are people out there that needs our help. I have done the digging around for its authenticity, it's a okay but feel free to do same. Nothing is too small, it is all About Making a Better Home. Here is the link to the site